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Name: Alishia
Country: United States
State: Michigan
Metro: Kalamazoo
Birthday: 6/18/1987
Gender: Female
Interests: Spending time with family and friends, Spending time with God, the BIBLE, being out doors, enjoying my life, being creative, animals, music, people in general, communication, and of course...always having fun!!
Expertise: I'm not really sure I have an expertise, but I really enjoy painting and anything that has to do with being creative. Meeting new people and being a loyal, honest friend.
Occupation: Sales Associate, Animal Techni
Message: message me
Website: visit my website
Yahoo:  corbygurl2005
Member Since:
8/2/2005
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| Have you ever found yourself frustrated with what people do or what they do not do? More with those who are close to you, whether it be just a friend or a significant other.
Lately I have found myself pondering the importance of expectations in relationships. What do you expect from the people who are in your life? Of course the expectations will vary depending on the relationship, but they play an important role in even the smallest of friendships. Whether you are really close with the person or not there are always underlying expectations that are present. It is crazy to think about, and sometimes it happens and you don't even realize it. Everyone has expectations, they just vary in importance from person to person.
When I first meet someone I don't have many expectations. Mostly because I don't know them. There's no history for me to base anything off of. I mean I expect them to be honest but that's something I would assume many people expect right from the beginning. It's after the first introduction is over and you've passed all the stages of small talk and have really began sharing your stories with one another; when expectations start coming into play. (At least this is how it works for me personally.) Once you truly befriend someone and you start building a foundation for your friendship....what does the other person expect from you as a friend? In return, what do you expect from them? Communication, honesty, trust,loyalty, respect...the list could go on forever.
Lately, I have been annoyed with the little things that people don't do. Sometimes, I feel I invest so much into a relationship and I feel as if I'm not getting anything in return. Yes, I know this might sound selfish...but a person can only give so much before they run out. Especially, when they don't have much to offer in the first place. My friends are very important to me, and without them I definitely wouldn't be the person I am today. However, do you ever feel like when you're the one in need none of your friends are really there to help or even just listen? Expectations....if one of my friends expects me to be there for them in a time of need, I would expect them to do the same for me. I understand that there are times when people aren't available and have busy lives...but what about the times where those variables don't come into play and or aren't present?
There's a whole other level to all of this when relationships are taken to the boyfriend/girlfriend status. So much more comes into play...and I'm still trying to put things together....I'll post more later. I'm curious to know what other people think. What kind of expectations do you have for you friends and or significant other?
I wish you all the best in all you do!
~*Alishia*~
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| Life is such an interesting journey. Lately I've been asking myself the question: What's next? It seems to me that things have been changing a lot as of late. Whether it's the people around me, things I personally am dealing with, new chapters in friendships and relationships, lives beginning and ending. There is so much going on, everything is going so fast. People are asking things of me that I've never expected to happen, I'm being stretched and pulled and everyone wants answers.....is it safe to give them what they want, these answers when right now I don't even know if that answer I give them is the answer that is how I truly feel. When I'm stretched and pulled and people are drawing from me....I'm not all there. I don't know if this makes any sense. My mother is asking this of me, nagging me to get this and that done, I have friends who come to me and unload everything that's going on; and under normal circumstances expect me to give them insight or some type of advice, in my relationship....which means the world to me....there are times where I want to withdraw myself, but I know as soon as I do that....everything that I've invested so much into will come crashing down....I don't know where I'm going with this.....
So I ask: What's next? So far this year, I've been through so much. I've been used, cheated, broken, put back together and broken again, happy and content, scared and lonely, and in the end now....I feel as if I'm the happiest person in the world. If there was a cloud nine....I would be on it. Lately, I've had a lot of pressing thoughts. What does Alishia really want to do with her life? I'm asking myself this question. My outlook has changed so much in the past six months.....Cornerstone was a wonderful chapter in my life, where I fed off of all the wonderful friendships that were made, the memories, the security, the bubble of the campus. Then I moved on: got my own apartment and started living my life fully on my own. I no longer had all the people around me to occupy my mind when my thoughts wouldn't turn off. I actually went through dozens of word search books...that's how I kept myself from going insane. I would sit in my living room and circle words for hours on end. Then I would sleep and the next day I would go to work...then do it all over again. :) Now I'm living in a house with two roommates. They are pretty amazing. Brett who we all call Boone, works 3rd shift...so he goes to work at night and gets off early in the morning. April is a waitress at the local Cracker Barrel, and she's just the cutest thing! The three of us get along great. We're not home at the same time very often, but when we are we have a blast. I remember one of the first nights when we were all home and April had a friend over. We all went outside in the yard and played Jackpot. When I lived by myself I never would have been able to do that. Since December of 2006 I have gone through many different phases in my life. I'm ready to live my life to the fullest, I now am in a relationship and I'm enjoying ever minute I get to spend with him. He's so amazing and everyday I notice new things that make me love him even more.
What's next: All I know is this. Later on down the road I want to be able to look back on my life and know that even though things weren't always easy and I had to work hard for things, through it all I learned from my mistakes. Someday I want to be someones lifelong partner. A wife who supports her husband through everything, the thick and thin, whether it's just writing a simple note letting him know how much I care about him, making him one of his favorite dinners just because, or when things are hard...understanding what needs to be done in order make things right again, learning how to truly express the love that I feel for him that will never fade but will only grow stronger. Someday to be a mother and having the opportunity to raise a child. Having a family...doing family activities that I used to long for as a child. When they grow up, I would want my children to think of me the same way I think of my mother.
-I have NO idea what I need to do next. However, I have a dream.....and it's slowly developing and shaping it's self and becoming more clear to me.
Blessing To You All!!
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| Another birthday has past and so much has changed since my last post. In a nut shell: I've made tons of new friends, learned more about people, tears have been cried, memories have been made, friends have come and gone and then come back again, and I have just recently moved out of my apartment and into a house with two other people. I'm going to miss my apartment, but I'm really looking forward to getting to know the people I'm living with and just enjoying the new life I'm starting. The past couple of months have been pretty rough, but I'm still alive and living strong. This summer is going to be wonderful. I'm so excited about what's to come. I hope all of you are having a great summer, enjoying your time off school, trips to the beach or whatever you have planned. Remember that even though times get rough there's always something better that will follow. Smile and take joy in the little things that make your life tolerable. Be Blessed.
~*Alishia*~
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| Wow, it's been a VERY long time since I have posted on here. Let me update you all on a few things. I have successfully transitioned from Cornerstone to Ivy Tech Community College in South Bend, Indiana. I'm going to school full time and I'm working three jobs. Since the beginning of the year my life has been so busy. Working everyday and trying to keep up with school work...it keeps me going. It's a good busy...this is what I told myself.
A few weeks ago I finally stopped and asked myself how I was doing. Multiple people ask me this everyday and the answer they usually get is I'm doing great. However, that small answer of great is what was on the surface. By no means am I not doing well, it just occurred to me that there is a deeper level that I had been ignoring for far to long. I haven't been allowing myself to relax and take care of me. Rushing and keeping busy is something I need to do to stay above water, but I realized that I can only do that for so long before my boat is going to crack under pressure. After finally realizing this I have been setting aside time for myself and time for me to spend time with those I care about. I truly miss all of you at Cornerstone. I had and still have so many wonderful friends who were so encouraging and just a great time to be around. I miss being able to walk across campus to visit people...and having a roommate. I never thought I would miss having one. It's so different coming home after a day of work and my home being so quiet all I hear is the bubbling of the fish tank.
I have been living in my new apartment now for about two and a half months, I am adjusting and it really is beginning to feel like a home. :) Which is exciting to me. I have been meeting tons of new people who have amazing stories. I find it very interesting where you can meet people, whether it's walking in the door to go to class, in the grocery store, or even an auto parts store. Haha it makes me laugh. It seems like everyday my passion for people continues to grow stronger, I love just listening to people talk about their lives and the things that they have lived through. You can learn so much about others by simply listening to what they have to say, whether it's a family matter, a great experience they had recently or in the past, or just talking about what's been on their heart. Some of the things I have learned have come from listening, and listening closely. I had to teach myself to turn off the little comments I want to make and truly listen and give feedback when it was appropriate or needed.
All in all things are going good. It has taken me a while to adjust and I've had to learn more about myself in order to keep everything together. Better now then later. Today I'm going to leave you with this, when you're having a conversation, I challenge you to truly listen and be open to wherever the conversation may go. Turn off the conversation damper that so many of us have closed tight, and enjoy the new places that simple talks and listening can do for you and those around you, whether it takes place in a group or one on one. Be Blessed!
~*Alishia*~
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| The semester is coming to an end. Which means my stay at Cornerstone is slowly ending...it's actually going rather fast. There have been days where I sat down and asked myself where the time went. Next week is Thanksgiving break. Since I no longer have class on tuesdays or thursdays I get to head home monday night. Which is very exciting for me, why you may ask. Tuesday is MOVE IN DAY!! That's right, I get to move my things into my new apartment. I can't wait, I'm so excited!! While I'm home I am hoping to be getting some hours in at my new job, along with straightening a few things out with my soon to be new school. When the week comes to a close I will head back to Grand Rapids to finish the semester. Then it's farewell on December 14th, 2006. The decision to not return to Cornerstone in the Fall didn't come easily. I was torn. However, this is a something that needs to be done. I'm going to miss Cornerstone, the campus, the atmosphere, the people, but most importantly the strong friendships that I have made while attending here. These are the people who were there for me during my lowest of lows, who encouraged me to keep going, who came along side of me and lifted me up. People who called me out on things, who held me accountable, who redirected my focus from me to the big picture. Those who encouraged me to strengthen my relationship with the Lord. Made me strive to live everyday to the fullest. These Friends know who they are, I'm so thankful for them. I'm going to be completely honest, before this semester started I thought about not returning to Cornerstone. However, I just couldn't shake the thought of not being with my friends. I worked at a camp all summer with students who go to Cornerstone, we bonded and I didn't want that to end. I had so many great memories and I didn't want to loose them. I will never forget this Chapter of my life. Where I grew, stretched, broke, cried, laughed, learned, stretched some more, and realized how grateful I am to be alive. Now it is time for me to go from here and take all that I have learned, experienced, and realized and put it in affect in my life outside of Cornerstone...in the "real world" so to speak. I am going to be living in an apartment by myself. I'm going to be working, making a living on my own. I'm going to be going to school part time. My life is going to be far from easy, I figured I might as well tell myself that now so it's not so hard when it actually hits me head on. I'm going to have so much time to think....there are going to be countless times where I am going to loose myself in thought. There are going to be hard times, where I'm not going to think I can continue on, when finances are going to be short (all the time), where I'm going to hit the floor asking myself what I was thinking when I decided to be so independent. It is in these times where I am going to have to draw on the Lord to keep going. I'm going to have to reteach myself to lean on God and allow Him to work in me. Let him mold me and shape me into the daughter He wants me to be. I want his Love and Joy to consume me! December 14th is going to be very bittersweet. I'm going to miss Cornerstone and all my friends. Yet at the same time I'm leaping for joy and I can't wait to see what lies before me. I'm not going to lie, I'm probably going to cry the whole way home, but I know this is a good thing! They will be sad tears at first, then the tears of joy will come. "Make a decision and LOVE the decision you have made" ~My friend and brother in Christ: Jonathan Have a wonderful day! Be blessed! I challenge you all to start each day saying this: Today is going to be a great day. Say it over and over again until you believe it. THEN LIVE IT!!! You are all special, embrace your uniqueness!! LOVE, ~*Alishia Corby Lenox*~ | | |
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